Spice up your masturbation with noise!

"I still have this creepy feeling that my mom can hear me!", said a 38 year old man who came in for some somatic sex coaching, despite that he lives alone and his mom who lives on the other side of the country! What is it about making noise during masturbation (for some men), that is so forbidden?

After reaching out and asking "Do you make noise when you masturbate?" to several men, I got a recurring answer. "No". Actually some men even replied that they actually tend to hold their breath while spanking the monkey. Why is this? Well, let me provide you with some understanding of this origin. Masturbation has gotten a pretty bad rap for years now, religion says that jacking off is about self pleasuring and not pleasing God. Well, say that to some men who haven't shot their load in a couple of days!

Anyhow, not many people realize the importance of sound when one is having a little self pleasuring session. Allowing yourself to moan, growl, grunt or even scream can actually enhance the moment. You see when you use sound, you are vibrating the body, the deeper and louder the sounds are, the more the body reacts. Its intensifying the erotic energy during that moment.

Okay, there is a little bit of self-consciousness that happens when noise is being made during your self love session, that is understandable. It could come with the lack of privacy or even close proximity to others you had when you were learning to masturbate. One gentleman who came in for some coaching, told me that he shared a room with his two brothers when he was growing up, and he had to wait until late at night and be really quiet doing the deed; so now in his relationship with his partner, he does the same. He masturbates late at night and is so still and quiet, that sometimes he doesn't even realize he came! If that is the case for you, and you have a tendency to quiet down when you are masturbating, maybe let people in your living arrangement know that you need some space. Or, maybe even let them join in or watch! Masturbating for a partner or a crowd could even intensify the magic. The most important thing is to make noise, a lot of noise! Yes, it will feel silly at first, but just think of the amazing orgasm you will have. Allow yourself to take deep breaths and make some noise!

I had another man as a client, who is in his in late 40's and carried around a lot of shame around his noise making abilities. When he was in his late teens, he had a neighborhood friend that he use to masturbate with. Before he came, he would make a lot of noise, the friend shamed him and told him that he sounded "girly" and "weird". This shame made my client shut down all his verbal talk for more than 25 years. He is just re-learning the importance to make noise while jerking off. Through coaching we figured out that he really does enjoy it, at first it was embarrassing, now he is practicing it more and more. "It's kind of liberating and freeing to know that my voice is sexy, and can help me get excited even more!".

Scream, (maybe yell someone's name) and just let go. It is so liberating to be able to use that voice to ask for more, and to verbalize your pleasure as you make love to yourself.

Want some more information about using sound as a way to enhance masturbation?

Contact JoJo "Bear" DeRodrigo at Metamorphic Embodiment

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